HABITSSS !!!

TEAM WORK...!!! The word in itself has so much of positivity in it. Doesn't it? Off course it does. Let us give it a negative angle now. When there are apples kept at distance they all look like juicy and fresh ones, even if one of them has a few spots and dirt on it, it is not noticeable. You see its true colors once u go a little closer and deeper towards it. Similarly team work acts like a mirror to your personality if you really want to inspect yourself. It is the team which makes us realize our faults, those habits of ours which are inseparable from us though they are not welcomed by majority around. We understand how weak we become only because of that one little weakness which we can control but we fail to.

I became a spectator to one such team work and learnt another important lesson about negativity. I don't know how do I manage to, but I always come across certain instances and try to look at its NEGATIVE & POSITIVE aspect. 

There is a very thin line between negative and practical thoughts. We can all think negatively about a situation and get influenced by it quickly, but being practical about the same negative situation is very difficult. The skills lie not in getting carried away by the negative situation but, practically and tactfully solving the same.

So many times we say and do a lot of little things, unaware of the fact that we drag ourselves towards negativity and gloominess. But why do we do this? Nobody enjoys being stressed and dull about situations. I am sure. So then WHY? According to my understanding it is this 5 letter magical word HABIT that makes us think and act in the way we do. Think about hab' IT '. 

Today we have all become so mechanical and monotonous in the way we perform, react to situations, people and events and all little and large things that we have forgotten about that one permanent factor in our lives, CHANGE. Change is one thing we all require from time to time. Negative thoughts do not emerge to a person because he likes them, but because he/she has been acting upon situations in that particular manner since years together now. His/Her nature or character may allow him/her to do so. But i wonder is it not in their control? Can one not manage the way he behaves? I believe YES !!! One just needs the will to perform and its all done.

All the reaction and character and nature that I was talking above really does not decide the wrong and right of a person. Do not mistake me for that. No reaction is wrong and right, its just the state of mind in which the person is at that particular time is what I feel. Emotions take over decisions many times. Or maybe it is just his/her way. But the irony is, whether we are positive or negative people; we could have handled certain situations in a better way than we did. 

Our mind is so biased when we come to ourselves. It can so easily get away by believing in certain things at certain times which it would have never agreed upon at certain other times. Confused? REREAD it please. Here I imply this logic to this simple and oldest phrase that I have ever heard "Old habits die hard." 

Little Moments, Monstrous Memories

MEMORIES !!! So positive and fun this word sounds, doesn't it? Lets go a little deeper into future. I sit on a couch with a cup of coffee sipping away the addictive drink and all the sweet moments flash across my eyes refreshing my mind. I live those moments all over again. Beautiful is what I would term those moments as. Those happy moments are the ones we always recollect when we talk of memories. Our mind automatically filters away the bad ones and focuses on the ones in our favor.  It does not mean bad memories do not exist in our lives. Look at our present, most of us will feel nothing is in place, everything is hay - wire, why me? Isn't it? Then where do these bad moments disappear when we sit and ponder about memories is what I always wonder !!! The happy ones are the ones which rule when we sit at leisure and think of them.

There are several little moments which give us tremendous happiness. Even a call from an unexpected old friend, who's face now appears blurred to you makes you feel happy. A little child smiling and waving back at you brings a smile on your face. Spending a few minutes with someone who loves and cares for you makes us feel happy for him/her. The list goes endless....then why do we still keep our problems on the top of our minds and the solutions are dug up deep below? WHY ???

There are so many little events happening that pull you down & then again so many things just happening at the same time that pull you deeper below and then comes the level of saturation when you sometimes feel like hiding within yourself. But then its just a matter of that one little thing happening and there you go, you pull yourself out of that gravity that kept you stuck inside. Its your own determination that brings you out. At the end of the day its you and only you who can help yourself out of all the negativity. Hang on; this write up is heading towards negative and positive thoughts now !!! Or may be everything is all about the way we think. Everything really revolves around optimism and pessimism. 

One thing is for sure, a perfect moment is a proper blend of the RIGHT ingredients, in a RIGHT proportion at the RIGHT time. So folks keep blending those ingredients and it will turn out the best when the RIGHT TIME strikes. We can't keep waiting for the right time and then start blending, you never know the moment might just skip away. So keep doing your bit and make those little moments the monstrous memories of your life...!!!